“It’s So Incredible To Finally Be Understood.”


The other day I posted about my thoughts regarding surveys and sorting, in regards to my MBTI result changing. You might have noticed that even though I talked about how I was formerly an ISFJ,  I never mentioned my new “true” personality type. This post is the reason, I wanted to delve into how much better my new type fits for me, as well as share the site that I found so incredibly in-depth and helpful!

16 Personalities is a take on the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) but with a bit more added into the equation, as well as some simplification in a couple aspects. All in all it is remarkably similar (you end with the same type-based four letter code) but they have added a hyphenate onto the end as well. They have a whole page dedicated to the process behind their surveys which is very helpful and informative, available HERE. The reason I wanted to share this is because I found it SO much easier than the majority of MBTI surveys. There was only one question I found a little vague, but none that were unclear or difficult to answer. I highly recommend taking it, either to reaffirm your existing MBTI or if you don’t know (or remember) your type and would like the additional information provided by 16 Personalities. You can take their personality test HERE. Some people can have their type change as they get older (like me!) so it’s good to be able to retake it 🙂 They have a lot of information provided for the various aspects of life, and it’s so interesting to see something so true to who I am. Perhaps taking the test yourself will help you learn a bit more about yourself and reaffirm some things you!

My Result:


Personality Type: “The Mediator” (INFP-T)
Individual Traits: Introverted (74%), Intuitive (84%), Feeling (75%), Prospecting (64%), – Turbulent (68%).

This trait determines how we interact with our environment.

  • Introverted individuals prefer solitary activities and get exhausted by social interaction. They tend to be quite sensitive to external stimulation (e.g. sound, sight or smell) in general.
This trait shows where we direct our mental energy.
  • Intuitive individuals are very imaginative, open-minded and curious. They prefer novelty over stability and focus on hidden meanings and future possibilities.
This trait determines how we make decisions and cope with emotions.
  • Feeling individuals are sensitive and emotionally expressive. They are more empathic and less competitive than Thinking types, and focus on social harmony and cooperation.
This trait reflects our approach to work, planning and decision-making.
  • Prospecting individuals are very good at improvising and spotting opportunities. They tend to be flexible, relaxed nonconformists who prefer keeping their options open.
This trait underpins all others, showing how confident we are in our abilities and decisions.
  • Turbulent individuals are self-conscious and sensitive to stress. They are likely to experience a wide range of emotions and to be success-driven, perfectionistic and eager to improve.

Role: Diplomat.
Strategy: Constant Improvement.

Mediator personalities are true idealists, always looking for the hint of good in even the worst of people and events, searching for ways to make things better. While they may be perceived as calm, reserved, or even shy, Mediators have an inner flame and passion that can truly shine. Comprising just 4% of the population, the risk of feeling misunderstood is unfortunately high for the Mediator personality type – but when they find like-minded people to spend their time with, the harmony they feel will be a fountain of joy and inspiration.

Mediator personality

Being a part of the Diplomat Role group, Mediators are guided by their principles, rather than by logic (Analysts), excitement (Explorers), or practicality (Sentinels). When deciding how to move forward, they will look to honor, beauty, morality and virtue – Mediators are led by the purity of their intent, not rewards and punishments. People who share the Mediator personality type are proud of this quality, and rightly so, but not everyone understands the drive behind these feelings, and it can lead to isolation.

All that is gold does not glitter; not all those who wander are lost; the old that is strong does not wither; deep roots are not reached by the frost.

J. R. R. Tolkien

We Know What We Are, but Know Not What We May Be

At their best, these qualities enable Mediators to communicate deeply with others, easily speaking in metaphors and parables, and understanding and creating symbols to share their ideas. Fantasy worlds in particular fascinate Mediators, more than any other personality type. The strength of their visionary communication style lends itself well to creative works, and it comes as no surprise that many famous Mediators are poets, writers and actors. Understanding themselves and their place in the world is important to Mediators, and they explore these ideas by projecting themselves into their work.

Mediators have a talent for self-expression, revealing their beauty and their secrets through metaphors and fictional characters.

Mediators’ ability with language doesn’t stop with their native tongue, either – as with most people who share the Diplomat personality types, they are considered gifted when it comes to learning a second (or third!) language. Their gift for communication also lends itself well to Mediators’ desire for harmony, a recurring theme with Diplomats, and helps them to move forward as they find their calling.

Listen to Many People, but Talk to Few

Unlike their Extraverted cousins though, Mediators will focus their attention on just a few people, a single worthy cause – spread too thinly, they’ll run out of energy, and even become dejected and overwhelmed by all the bad in the world that they can’t fix. This is a sad sight for Mediators’ friends, who will come to depend on their rosy outlook.

If they are not careful, Mediators can lose themselves in their quest for good and neglect the day-to-day upkeep that life demands. Mediators often drift into deep thought, enjoying contemplating the hypothetical and the philosophical more than any other personality type. Left unchecked, Mediators may start to lose touch, withdrawing into “hermit mode”, and it can take a great deal of energy from their friends or partner to bring them back to the real world.

Luckily, like the flowers in spring, Mediator’s affection, creativity, altruism and idealism will always come back, rewarding them and those they love perhaps not with logic and utility, but with a world view that inspires compassion, kindness and beauty wherever they go.

Mediators You May Know



This is just the introduction to my personality type but you can read about all the different types, in full, HERE. I find it fascinating how well it suits me! It’s also kind of interesting that my mom is an ISFJ and my dad is an INTP… so as an INFP I’m a pretty fair mix of both. I hope you enjoyed reading about 16 Personalities and the one I am! What was your result? I’d love to know!

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