The Real Me vs The Online Me


 Today’s prompt: The real you vs. the online you. Are they the same or different?

When thinking about this post, I just pictured the part of the original Sailor Moon theme song where Serena/ Usagi is back to back with her alter-ego, Sailor Moon, and then one of them turns and gives a peace sign or something. It’s been awhile so I may be remembering that wrong but I just needed to start this post with that mental image. You’re welcome.

This is going to be a two birds one stone kind of blog post. This prompt is from the Blogtember Challenge that I am now just using for prompts, but it is something we discussed in lecture for my publishing class.

I’m going to back up a bit. You may know that I am a university student, you also may know that I’m an English major. But as I don’t plan on teaching and you can’t really graduate with a book deal along with your diploma, becoming a novelist is a plan A. I still need a plan B. When I saw that the entry level course for publishing was about publishing yourself in every day life, I was estatic. Social media and developing my online presence is something I’ve been passionate about in one way or another since 2001 and our awful AOL dial up Internet. Obviously my early days online were not really about actively making a little home on the Internet. That started around about 2011 when I started my Tumblr and stopped being anonymous (due to the ingrained fear of online predators and Criminal Minds-esque abductions, of course) and started going by my name and identity. Before that I had done so on Nexopia, going as either ‘Adrianna Mary-Anne’ or ‘Adrianna Rose’ (my confirmation name) but my friends/ followers on there were all people I knew in real life. 

So back to the question at hand. 

In class during one of the first lectures, we were asked to think about which social media is the most authentic portrayal of ourselves. A lot of people said Facebook. 

For me, Facebook is like the farthest away from ‘real me’. Maybe back when I joined it in 2006 and had an actual wall and a graffiti board and an honesty box… But now I post maybe ten times a year and just use it for school group projects and to keep up with people I don’t see day to day. Facebook is the only social media where I use my first and last name but I have a ‘twenty conversation rule’ where I only add people who are related to me or who I have had at least twenty conversations with. Weird, I know. 

I couldn’t decide which of my social medias (aside from my blog) is the most accurate version of me. I spend a lot more time and effort on Tumblr and Instagram but both are highly mediated and a very skewed view of my life. Not inaccurate or not me per se but more staged.

On Tumblr I mostly reblog other peoples posts by adding them to my queue where I then organize them by colour and post 1-50 posts a day, depending on how far into the queue I’ve organized them and how full the queue is. Serious aesthetic related OCD happening there. 

On Instagram I also post based on colour schemes. Often I will take a picture and not post it for weeks until the colours of my posts have changed to allow for that colour to mesh with the others. I know, I am out of control. My INSTAgram is rarely instant or spontaneous and as much as I wish it was, my life is not as saturated or filtered as my IG feed may lead people to believe.

So, while Tumblr and Instagram may be my favourite social media outlets, I would have to say Twitter is the most true reflection of who I am.

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Yes, all the different social media outlets I use are different aspects of me. Instagram shows the things I do and have, Tumblr showcases the things I like, Facebook displays the people I know.

But Twitter displays my thoughts. While yes, they are limited in terms of characters but I am not forcing them out like sometimes I do with blog posts. I do still retweet other people’s tweets. I don’t have a whole bunch of followers that cause me to mediate my content based on what they like and I don’t have to worry about only posting when I have time to edit, filter, and caption. I can’t even edit tweets after they’ve gone live. But if you were wanting to get more of an accurate view into who I am… Twitter would be the place to go.

Maybe it’s not the 100% epitome of authenticity and maybe this will change, especially as my blog grows, but for now: The real me and the online me is the same, but different aspects of my life are showcased on their respective social media outlets.

What are your favourite social medias? Which do you think are closest to your “true” or “real life” self? You can check mine out by clicking the respective links!

Thanks for reading!


DISCLAIMER: The prompt for this post was originally from BraveLoveBlog’s Blog-Tember Challenge. I did not complete Blogtember during the month of September but adored the prompts so I am going to continue using the prompts out of order. ALL credit for the idea behind Blogtember and the creation of these prompts goes to Bailey Jean and her blog, BraveLoveBlog. You can find her original list of Blogtember 2015 prompts HERE.


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